Men are from Mars, Women are from venues; is basically a prescription for all who are struggling in their relationships by offering a simple psychological analysis of the nature of men and women which will facilitate dealing with the opposite sex. we mistakenly think that our partners should be more like us, to want what we want and feel they way we feel. Remembering that we are different and respect our differences is the clue to every disagreement.
Life on Mars:
Men seek power, competence and achievements. Their language is strength and they hunt for success. They are more interested in “objects” and “things” rather than people and feelings for example; faster computers and powerful cars. The most important thing to a man’s life is to achieve goals, proving his competence. That’s why offering a man a piece of advice is showing that he can’t do it on his own, therefore; he will resist being corrected. Asking for help is perceived as a sign of weakness, that’s why it is the last option and when he really needs help, he asks another man who will directly give him solutions. On the other hand, when a woman talks about her problems, he offers solutions; this is his way of showing love and care. he has no idea that by just listening with interest and empathy.
Life on Venus:
On the contrary, Women value love, communication and relationships. They love to support and help one another. Communication is of primary importance, sharing their personal feelings is much more important that achieving goals. women’s dialogue is open and intimate. A sign of great love is to offer assistance to another without being asked. In the women’s world offering help is not offensive and not a sign of weakness but oppositely offering help to a man makes him feel incompetent and weak.
Achieving a harmony life:
The perfect advice for men and women to live in peace and harmony is for men to stop giving solutions and learn to listen whenever a women speaks, trying to understand respectfully what she is going through and he will be surprised how much she appreciates this. And for women to give up giving advice and criticism and to practice acceptance to her partner, understanding that he is resisting not her need but the way she is approaching him. A man makes improvements when he feels he is being approached as the solution to a problem rather than as the problem itself.